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A few weeks ago I had the most remarkable dream of my entire life followed by what I can only describe as one perfect day. Then everything got interesting. Over the following weeks I dreamt about having clinical depression, wearing someone else's underpants, or having none on at all, and then audibly calling my own name in the middle of the night. This all happened while putting the final touches on my novel and releasing it for the first round of public critique. I’m convinced that when you are committed to living in alignment with who you really are, and honouring rapport with self as the hi
In today’s episode: After five years of living with an idea, stage one of the Flemwad journey has finally come to an end. In this episode, I reflect on the process of becoming a novelist, explain the strange title of the book, and read Chapter One for the very first time. Flemwad has been far more than a writing project. It has become an inquiry into freedom, insecurity, identity, and what happens when you upgrade the stories you tell about what you are capable of. I also take you behind the scenes of how I use ChatGPT for my own personal growth. In particular, how I use it to interpret dreams
On today’s episode I explore the question of what actually creates deep and abiding joy in a human life. Not temporary pleasure. Not achievement highs. Not relief after stress. Real aliveness. Drawing from my own field report of the last five years, I share honestly about the experiences, shifts, perspectives, and practices that have most profoundly changed my relationship with joy, presence, and being alive. From there, I explore the deeper universal principles underneath those experiences. Not as rules to copy, but as patterns others may recognise and apply in their own way. This is an episo
This episode starts with a simple idea from the binary logic of computer science, and ends up somewhere much closer to home. Every computer program runs on basic on/off decisions. 1 or 0. True or false. And as it turns out, that’s exactly how a child makes sense of the world. Questions to: Am I good, worthy, smart, special, different, normal (and plenty more) are answered definitively one way or the other. In this episode, I unpack how those early binary decisions form the structure of insecurity and how most adults go their whole lives without examining this core coding. I’ll also show you ho
On todays episode: If you’ve ever felt the tension of trying to be the best version of you, but never really knowing where to start, I’m sure this one will land. Why most relationships are more transactional than we’d like to admit Why the advice to “just be yourself” might be the most unhelpful thing you’ve ever been told about personal development. How even powerful tools like ChatGPT can sound right while completely missing the point. I’ll show you a case study of someone using AI for therapy. The simple equation I use to decode dreams without overcomplicating them And where I’ve landed one
This episode is a field report from the last month of my life. I unpack the three principles currently organising how I think, work, and make decisions. I share what surfaced during my annual psychedelic trip and the unexpected clarity it brought. I reflect on a fresh discovery about the wonder of music and why it has moved me more deeply than I anticipated. I also explain my favourite coaching tool, one that has created significant breakthroughs for several clients recently, and why I keep returning to it. Running through all of this is a central theme: truth and capacity. Most people say the
In this episode I unpack the evolution in my understanding of the game of life. I’m sure seeing the game for what it is, is the most liberating shifts a human can make. I explore what changes the moment you understand the rules instead of fighting them. Why life feels impossible when you play blind. Why it becomes fluid and fun when you finally see the mechanics. And how the hidden clues scattered throughout your journey start making sense once you realise where they actually come from. I talk about what happens when you get stuck in the game and keep losing. Why some people stay trapped in lo
In this episode: What it means to stay truly human in a world that’s speeding toward artificial everything; Why singing the same songs with strangers instantly draws you out of yourself, and what to do after the transcendent moments fade. And what can a feel-good show like Ted Lasso teach us about the pain we’d rather not face (especially our daddy issues) I also share why I can’t attend conferences anymore, and offer seven ideas for staying grounded, soulful, and sane in the age of AI. If you’ve ever longed for connection, authenticity, or just a way to feel real again in a synthetic world, t
On today’s episode: Dreams are not random noise. They are invitations to process the unreconciled data from your waking life. If you reconcile, you get to move forward. If you don’t, you stay stuck, looping through the same unresolved problems again and again. Cracking your dreams as codes reveals truths about your story, your fears, and the permission you have withheld from yourself. I’ll show you how I am using ChatGPT in a precise and powerful way to fast-track my dream interpretation and how that is dramatically accelerating my personal growth And personal work does not exist in a vacuum.
Let me tell you the story of my Sunday. Not because anything spectacular happened, but because it unfolded with such flow and synchronicity that it felt like life and I were playing the same tune. Every moment carried love, creativity, humour, connection, and timing so perfect it was impossible to dismiss as pure coincidence. What made it extraordinary was that I experienced myself as both Jaemin and God at the same time. I was the giver and the receiver, the wave and the ocean. Life flowing through me and life happening to me all seamlessly, in one loop. This episode is about that paradox, bu
The Unhindered Podcast - Episode 322: The Value of Being Limited We chase the idea of being limitless, but what if the key to true fulfilment lies in embracing our limitations? In this episode, I explore the truth that being human means living with limits. It’s within these very limits that the richness of life is found. I’ll dive into which arbitrary limitations come from our minds, culture, and stories, and should be cast off and then highlight the limitations that are essential to our humanity. These limits help us fully appreciate the wonder of being neither fully divine nor completely ani
Today’s guest is Jennifer, who has just completed The Unhindered Experience coaching process with me. This is a beautifully honest conversation about what really happens when someone commits to doing the deep work of resolving insecurity. Jennifer shares openly about where she got stuck, what it was like when she got offended with me during the process, and why that moment ended up being so important. She also speaks about how this experience was different from anything else she’d tried — and what finally caused the breakthrough she’d been searching for (hint: it wasn’t me). If you’ve ever won
On today’s episode, Amity is back in the host chair helping me unpack the most common mistakes people make when it comes to dealing with their insecurities. If you would like to eradicate insecurity from your life so that you are able to be at your best where it matters most, here is what NOT to do. These simple mistakes are made for a variety of reasons, but each one of them immediately takes you out of the proven path for overcoming insecurity for good. Listen in to find out each of the top 5 mistakes to make sure you are not making any of them, and to discover what to do instead.
On this episode, my daughter Amity takes over the podcast and turns the microphone onto me. For all the new listeners and those just beginning the process of solving their insecurity problem, Amity interviews me on all the basics so you can know exactly where to start. Even if you’ve been wrestling with the fear of not being good enough for years, this episode will help you come back to basics and understand the only path to becoming unhindered from all self doubt, limiting beliefs and insecurities. You’ll find: A clear, step by step summary of the seven essential practices for overcoming inse
On today’s episode, I’ve compiled the 10 most useful skills from the life-coaching world. 15 years ago, the life-coaching skillset was a missing technology in my tool kit for helping people grow and change and find effective solutions to their most painful problems. Although I was often privileged enough to be invited into people’s lives to deal with their greatest challenges, in hindsight, my heart was always in the right place, but I definitely lacked the skills and tools to facilitate lasting change. Maybe you’ll find these skill are a missing technology in your life too. I’m convinced that
On today’s episode: Why you should buy more books that you’re never going to read. Exactly why man’s search for meaning is misplaced inside religion. How I finally accessed the creative magic inside me for the novel I’m writing. Why my most outlandish and important life goals are all back online again after losing them in a season of confusion and disappointment. And the only way to truly get the things you really want through the science of manifestation.
On Today’s episode: The three things every person must do at least once in their lifetime, What to do with all the suffering in the world and why I still love Jerry Seinfeld, The latest iteration of my life purpose statement, Why drinking Elvis Juice on a rooftop bar in Vegas is always a good idea, My main regret after meeting a Leprechaun in a canyon bed hot-spring, And why it’s much harder to become a bad person than most people imagine.
On today’s episode: My lovely wife shares her personal development journey over the last 5 years and how the coaching space has helped her make key breakthroughs along the way. What makes this even more interesting is that I have been the one that has coached her. I’ve asked her to explain how we were able to have these critical coaching conversations without ruining our marriage. Katherine also talks about: How we separated the coaching conversations from the marriage ones The importance of clean conversations, precise language and being clear about the frame before the conversation is had. T
On today’s episode: An update from my annual thinking week retreat, Why my golf game has drastically improved lately And a detailed critique of why these 12 ‘truths’ from therapy will not actually change anything. - Thoughts are not facts - Your past does not define your future - Perfectionism is a myth - Change begins with self-acceptance - There’s power in vulnerability - You can’t change others, just yourself - Forgiveness is for you not the other person - You can change - Your inner critic is not your friend - Your body keeps the score - You are not responsible for other peoples happiness
On today’s episode: Why it is supposed to be hard to find the right playlist to listen to on Spotify, the right movie to watch on Netflix, or the right book to purchase on Audible. Cutting through the noise and mess of the NLP world back to the heart of what made this technology so wonderful in the first place. Some pure wisdom from David Henry Thoreau that has opened my future to new possibilities, And why you have to get your hands on Dr Karl Kruszelnicki’s autobiography - A Periodic Tale.
On today’s episode: I’m sure no one is still running an iPhone 3 with the same software it came installed with. It would be completely incompatible with current apps. It is crazy that the idea of installing necessary operating system updates for your phone makes sense, but most people are still running the same internal operating system for their life that they installed before they finished primary school! No wonder life has become so difficult and ineffective. Here are the 8 most important operating system upgrades you’ll need to install in your mind if you would like to have a better experi
On today’s episode: How I fell into the entitlement trap again, and how Jim Carey helped rescue me from this dangerous state. Making sense of divine inspiration. The virtues of drinking alcohol on an empty stomach. Why it is important to own a bean bag. And my favourite writing from each of my 6 books.
On today's episode: The only way to tell if internet advice has any value, especially when you find completely contradictory ideas online. The importance of not just focussing, but knowing just what to focus on. Why I find the man made world more amazing than the natural one. An update on my latest writing project. What I do when my clients get scared, And pretending it is your first day on earth.
On today’s episode: Why Jocko Willink is wrong about getting the best out of yourself and how to truly find freedom instead. How Lebron James models certainty more purely than anyone else in the public eye. My favourite art, music and comedy from the last few weeks. And, why your problems are not clinging to you but, you are the one clinging to them.
On Todays episode I interviewed my 20 year old daughter Amity about her experience of overcoming insecurity ahead of the curve. We also chat about her thoughts on: Readiness for change. How to increase it, and why you can’t get away with pretending to be ready. The power of the clean coaching space to facilitate lasting change. Accusations, agreements and dealing with daddy issues. How to discover the defining moments that created insecurity in the first place. Why gamification may be the only way into the journey of overcoming insecurity for most people. Why it is easy to underestimate the ha
