Closeness

THE CLOSENESS PODCASTYour New Sex EducationHosted by Tari Mannello — Southern California's most sought-after sex and intimacy coach, with 80+ five-star reviews — Closeness is an honest, intelligent education in the things almost none of us were ever actually taught: desire, attraction, seduction, and the art of real connection.Because we pieced it together from hints, imitation, and guesswork. And then we settled into the routines that quietly hollow out a relationship — until desire becomes a negotiation. An ask. Something traded for a clean kitchen or a good mood.It was never meant to work that way.Each episode goes where most people are too uncomfortable to go: touch, tension, seduction, confidence, emotional connection, and the honest distance between the sex you're having and the sex you both actually long for. Not clinical. Not crude. Something far more interesting — frank, elegant, and genuinely useful.At the center is one idea. Desire isn't summoned by force or techn

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Episodes 90

How to Be the Best He’s Ever Had
2mo ago · 16:57
Every woman wants to be the best he's ever had, and almost none of them have ever been told how — because the one person who could give them a straight answer, their partner, has quietly learned to keep his mouth shut. In this episode of Closeness, I explain why that silence exists and then give you ten practical, do-it-tonight ways to become exactly that. The silence isn't an accident. There are two reasons a man won't tell you the truth about sex, and neither one is laziness. The first is that he's learned honesty gets him punished — one honest note and many women spiral, go cold, or never r
If the Sex Isn’t Good Now, It Won’t Get Better After the Wedding
2mo ago · 7:33
Sex after marriage is one of the most searched and least honestly discussed topics in relationships — and after nearly a decade sitting with couples who are quietly struggling, Tari is saying the thing everyone is thinking and nobody will put into words. If the sex isn't good now, it is not going to get better after the wedding. That's not a cynical take. It's not a scare tactic. It's what Tari has watched happen to more couples than he can count — two people who genuinely love each other, who are wonderful friends, who have built a beautiful life together, and who have always had a bedroom th
How Taking Space Is Costing You The Relationship
2mo ago · 13:30
Wanting space isn't the problem. Taking it badly is. If you've ever asked for space and watched it blow up — him spiraling, you feeling guilty, the connection somehow worse — this one's for you. This is the women's companion to "5 Things Men Need to Know When She Needs Space." Tough love, the loving kind: 5 ways to take the space you need without losing the man you want to keep — how to name your terms, why vanishing backfires, the phrases to retire, and the tender moment when you just need to be quiet. CHAPTERS 0:00 We need to talk, ladies 0:44 Why this keeps happening to you 1:39 Rule one: q
How to Properly Flirt With Your Wife or Girlfriend (Even After Years Together)
3mo ago · 16:39
She didn't stop wanting it. You just stopped doing it. Most men in long-term relationships have quietly given up on flirting — not because they don't want to, but because somewhere along the way it felt awkward, got shut down, or got buried under the comfort of everyday life. The problem is she's still waiting for it. She's still hungry for the moment you look at her like you mean it. In this episode, Tari breaks down masculine flirtation from the ground up — what it actually looks like, why it's nothing like feminine flirting, and how to layer it back into your relationship starting today. No
Why She Won’t Initiate Sex — And What To Do About It
3mo ago · 10:37
One of the most common frustrations men bring into my office: "Why do I always have to be the one to start things?" In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Tari breaks down the real psychology behind why most women won't initiate — even when they want to. You'll learn why women and men are wired completely differently around rejection, what the "secret universe" of female desire actually sounds like, and the single most important shift you can make to become someone she can't help but respond to. No begging required. #relationships #intimacy #sexcoach #marriageadvice #couples #sexualenergy #da
Why Men Can’t Take Sex Seriously (And How to Fix It) | Closeness
3mo ago · 6:30
If your partner has ever said you don't take sex seriously enough, this episode is for you. Intimacy Tari has spent over a decade working with couples, and one pattern comes up more than almost any other: men who use humor, jokes, and playfulness as an escape hatch the moment intimacy starts to deepen. This isn't about being too silly. It's about never having been given a model for masculine erotic presence — and compensating with behavior that quietly kills sexual tension. Tari explains what's actually driving the deflection, what women are asking for when they want a man to "show up," and gi
15 Signs She’s Sexually Satisfied – How to Know if She’s Well Loved
3mo ago · 27:55
Signs a woman is sexually satisfied go far beyond what most men understand — and most men are never taught what to look for. In this episode, Tari from Closeness breaks down 15 specific indicators that tell you exactly how she’s experiencing you, sexually and emotionally. A well-loved, well-sexed woman is not something you can manufacture overnight. It takes presence, focus, skill, and a genuine care for her experience. When those things come together, she responds in ways that are unmistakable — if you know what you’re looking for. In this episode you’ll learn the 15 signs a woman is sexually
Does being submissive to a man actually get a woman what she wants? A Closeness Podcast
3mo ago · 16:22
The Sexual Skill Gap – Navigating male sexual inexperience, years later
4mo ago · 32:07
She’s Already Gone: Understanding Women, Breakups & What Men Never See Coming
7mo ago · 25:51
Most men experience a breakup as something that happens suddenly — a conversation that blindsides them, a decision that seems to arrive from nowhere. The truth is almost always more complicated. By the time a woman says the words out loud, she has typically been living with that decision for months. Sometimes years. In this episode, Tari from Closeness breaks down one of the most painful and misunderstood dynamics in long-term relationships: the slow, silent exit. What it looks like from her side. What it feels like from his. And why the gap between those two experiences causes so much devasta
5 Things men don’t think about before having sex with their partner (Excerpt from a video podcast)
7mo ago · 11:36
While there are women who do enjoy sex with no strings attached, most women in relationships are tolerating their love life from their partner. Here are a few things to consider.
You’re a Highly Sexual Woman. So Why Aren’t You Getting What You Want?
1y ago · 19:52
The title speaks for itself. Please enjoy. Are you a highly sexual woman who has never quite gotten the sex you actually want? You’re not alone — and it’s not your fault. In this episode, Tari from Closeness introduces the concept of the highly sexual woman, or HSW — a woman whose sexual nature is intense, real, and largely hidden. Not because she’s repressed or broken, but because the men in her life were never equipped to bring it out of her. A highly sexual woman doesn’t always look the part. She may present as calm, composed, even reserved. But underneath that exterior is a craving for int
Interview: Is it possible to have an unforgettable One Night Stand?
1y ago · 45:43
It's been a while since we've posted an interview style format so we're bringing it backwith a bang! (So to speak) For regular listeners who are used to relationship oriented sexual material, don't worry there will still be plenty of that in future episodes. But for today's guest, Venus is here explore how to make a one night stand a special and fun experience. Closeness also posts videos on all social media platforms. Follow us on YouTube: YouTube.com/closeness X and Instagram: @closenesscoach TikTok: @IntimacyCoaching Chapters: 0:00 Closeness is now on all social media platforms with videos
What happens long-term when you deprive a woman of sex, intimacy and closeness?
1y ago · 1:00:26
For a sexual woman, or a woman who enjoys regular sex, nothing feels more devastating than being deprived of intimacy, closeness, and the feeling of being desired. In long-term relationships, this scenario is more common than many realize and can lead to her disconnecting, shutting down and even feeling deeply resentmentful. In this episode, we explore what you can do if you've been neglecting your partner ins this department. The Pain of Feeling Undesired When a woman feels rejected sexually, it’s not just about the lack of physical intimacy—it’s about the emotional toll it takes on her feeli
How to inspire a woman to FEEL sexy and sexual towards you
1y ago · 1:01:20
If you want to know how to make your wife feel sexy — really feel it, not just look it — this episode is the one to send to every man you know. Most men assume their job is to show up and respond. Wrong. The real work is in creating the conditions that awaken her desire: the right look, the right touch, the right energy, the right voice. Closeness coach Tari walks through exactly what that means — from the difference between a woman doing something for you versus doing it because she's genuinely turned on, to the art of directing a scene without barking orders or whispering into the sheets. Th
13 Easy to fix roadblocks that are keeping you from having sex right now… and what to do about them
2y ago · 1:01:58
In this episode, we tackle 13 common barriers that can stand in the way of a thriving sexual connection with your partner. Whether it’s logistical issues, bad timing, or emotional disconnection, these roadblocks can quietly chip away at intimacy. The good news? Every one of these obstacles can be addressed easily, paving the way for better connection, desire, and satisfaction. It’s Not Just About Desire—It’s About the Setup Sometimes, logistics are the real problem. Are there too many pillows on the bed creating a barrier to even touch? Is your couch too small or your bed too uncomfortable for
What to do with an extra horny wife or girlfriend… when your libidos are mismatched
2y ago · 50:15
Ah the case of the extra horny wife! What to do when your wife or girlfriend has a high sex drive and you’re struggling to keep up? This episode looks at one of the biggest challenges in relationships today. Whether you’re dealing with mismatched drives, low libido, or confusion about how to take the lead, this episode gives you actionable tips to handle the situation with confidence and connection. Understanding the Problem When a woman has a higher sex drive than you, frustration and discouragement can creep into the relationship. Sometimes, men have a low libido, feel shy, or simply don’t k
20 Things to consider when dating a woman who has children
2y ago · 1:11:38
In so many ways, dating a single mother is an entirely different experience compared to dating someone without children. In this episode, we explore the unique dynamics, challenges, and many rewards of stepping into a relationship with a single mother. From navigating your needs, to her unique priorities and needs to understanding her relationship dynamic with her ex, this episode breaks down the 20 essential things you need to know to make the relationship work—or decide if it’s the right fit for you. When dating a single mother, her children will always come first, and rightfully so. From mi
The incredible experience of knowing when a woman is in love with you… and how to reciprocate back! 15 ways
2y ago · 59:17
In this heartfelt episode of The Closeness Podcast, Tari explores the subtle yet profound ways a woman expresses love towards you and how to nurture that connection. Love isn’t just a feeling, you can also see it written all over her face, as well as in her actions and gestures towards you that reveal her affection and devotion. From admiring glances to shared laughter and vulnerably sharing herself with you, this episode offers 15 clear signs to help you recognize when a woman is truly in love with you and, more importantly, how to reciprocate that love in meaningful ways. Love can be seen in
Sexual Tension. What it is, how to play with it and why you must build it with your partner
2y ago · 58:59
This episode dives into that unspoken, magnetic force that women love, men are strangers to and has the ability to keep relationships alive: sexual tension. To begin, do you know what it is? How would you describe it to someone? Far from a fleeting moment of attraction, sexual tension is a dynamic between you and your partner. An energy that is felt. A strong feeling. A deliberate energy that fuels desire, excitement, and intimacy in long-term and short term relationships alike. Whether you’re looking to reignite a spark or keep the flames burning, this episode breaks down why sexual tension m
Understanding how your partner starts fights and provokes you… and what you can do about it
3y ago · 1:11:42
How to Navigate Conflict and Stop the Cycle of Petty Fights As much as we want our relationships to be full of passion and connection, they can also be bogged down by repetitive, exhausting conflicts. In this dense yet insightful episode, we dive into the dynamics of how fights start, why some partners provoke or blindside you, and what you can do to handle conflict in a healthier way. Fighting over petty issues often leaves couples feeling drained, disconnected, and unsure of what they were even arguing about. Let’s unpack how to break that cycle and focus on building true intimacy. The Root
Closeness Interview: A glimpse into a millennial military spouse’s marriage. Could this also be your relationship?
3y ago · 1:22:35
Grappling with Intimacy: A Closeness Client’s True Story In this unprecedented episode, we step into the intimate world of a Closeness client as she candidly shares her struggles with intimacy and her desire for dominance and assertiveness in her relationship. Read by the podcast host, this two-part interview offers a unique listening experience—complete with a “director’s cut” featuring host commentary alongside the raw, unfiltered story. The Struggles of Balancing Desire and Connection The client’s experience sheds light on a universal challenge: her yearning for a partner who can take charg
How to move things forward and have sex when you feel like roommates, best friends or are simply not progressing
3y ago · 1:13:46
Feeling like roommates instead of lovers? You’re not alone. One of the biggest struggles in long-term relationships is when passion fades, intimacy stalls, and everything starts to feel stale. In this episode, we dive deep into why this happens and, more importantly, how to fix it. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you’ll learn immediate actionable strategies to reignite the spark and take the lead in moving intimacy forward—no waiting around. Why Relationships Go Stale—and What to Do About It Over time, couples can fall into patterns that kill sexual tension. Some couples have never had sexual
Why your female partner or wife isn’t having sex with you, and what you can do about it
3y ago · 29:33
Sometimes, the things you aren’t doing in bed can be just as damaging as the things you are. In this episode, we explore 10 key reasons why your wife or girlfriend might not feel inspired to be intimate with you—and more importantly, what you can do to turn things around. Spoiler alert: It’s not about asking for sex or sticking to the same moves you’ve been using for years. Mindset Matters: How Do You View Sex? One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when men treat sex like something they’re owed or something they can “get” from their partner. Similarly it's a turnoff of men beg or ask for i
Interview: Intimate insights from the mind and heart of a 20 year old college student
3y ago · 1:55:24
A striking and unusually intelligent, intellectual college student explores her boundaries of sexuality, and intimate desires for nearly two hours with Tari. How men and women at her university level interact with each other in the dating world is different than what we've seen before. Together, we explore who should initiate and seduce in the bedroom, male and female nature, her experiences with teaching inexperienced men how to have sex, what confidence looks like in a man, handling rejection, solving issues with eye contact, what eye contact actually conveys, the necessity for men to be dom

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How to Be the Best He’s Ever Had

If the Sex Isn’t Good Now, It Won’t Get Better After the Wedding

How Taking Space Is Costing You The Relationship

How to Properly Flirt With Your Wife or Girlfriend (Even After Years Together)

Why She Won’t Initiate Sex — And What To Do About It

Why Men Can’t Take Sex Seriously (And How to Fix It) | Closeness

15 Signs She’s Sexually Satisfied – How to Know if She’s Well Loved

Does being submissive to a man actually get a woman what she wants? A Closeness Podcast

The Sexual Skill Gap – Navigating male sexual inexperience, years later

She’s Already Gone: Understanding Women, Breakups & What Men Never See Coming

5 Things men don’t think about before having sex with their partner (Excerpt from a video podcast)

You’re a Highly Sexual Woman. So Why Aren’t You Getting What You Want?

Interview: Is it possible to have an unforgettable One Night Stand?

What happens long-term when you deprive a woman of sex, intimacy and closeness?

How to inspire a woman to FEEL sexy and sexual towards you

13 Easy to fix roadblocks that are keeping you from having sex right now… and what to do about them

What to do with an extra horny wife or girlfriend… when your libidos are mismatched

20 Things to consider when dating a woman who has children

The incredible experience of knowing when a woman is in love with you… and how to reciprocate back! 15 ways

Sexual Tension. What it is, how to play with it and why you must build it with your partner

Understanding how your partner starts fights and provokes you… and what you can do about it

Closeness Interview: A glimpse into a millennial military spouse’s marriage. Could this also be your relationship?

How to move things forward and have sex when you feel like roommates, best friends or are simply not progressing

Why your female partner or wife isn’t having sex with you, and what you can do about it

Interview: Intimate insights from the mind and heart of a 20 year old college student

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Episodes 90

How to Be the Best He’s Ever Had

If the Sex Isn’t Good Now, It Won’t Get Better After the Wedding

How Taking Space Is Costing You The Relationship

How to Properly Flirt With Your Wife or Girlfriend (Even After Years Together)

Why She Won’t Initiate Sex — And What To Do About It

Why Men Can’t Take Sex Seriously (And How to Fix It) | Closeness

15 Signs She’s Sexually Satisfied – How to Know if She’s Well Loved

Does being submissive to a man actually get a woman what she wants? A Closeness Podcast

The Sexual Skill Gap – Navigating male sexual inexperience, years later

She’s Already Gone: Understanding Women, Breakups & What Men Never See Coming

5 Things men don’t think about before having sex with their partner (Excerpt from a video podcast)

You’re a Highly Sexual Woman. So Why Aren’t You Getting What You Want?

Interview: Is it possible to have an unforgettable One Night Stand?

What happens long-term when you deprive a woman of sex, intimacy and closeness?

How to inspire a woman to FEEL sexy and sexual towards you

13 Easy to fix roadblocks that are keeping you from having sex right now… and what to do about them

What to do with an extra horny wife or girlfriend… when your libidos are mismatched

20 Things to consider when dating a woman who has children

The incredible experience of knowing when a woman is in love with you… and how to reciprocate back! 15 ways

Sexual Tension. What it is, how to play with it and why you must build it with your partner

Understanding how your partner starts fights and provokes you… and what you can do about it

Closeness Interview: A glimpse into a millennial military spouse’s marriage. Could this also be your relationship?

How to move things forward and have sex when you feel like roommates, best friends or are simply not progressing

Why your female partner or wife isn’t having sex with you, and what you can do about it

Interview: Intimate insights from the mind and heart of a 20 year old college student