Ambar, Actually...

Hosted by Ambar, joined by Steven · steventhesier.com

Capturing the essence of everyday life, exploring the mundane, the absurd, and the hilarious. Tune in with Ambar and co-host Steven as they navigate the randomness of modern life—one laugh, eye-roll, and rant at a time. From dating drama and pop culture chaos to the deeply petty things that keep us up at night, no topic is too trivial. You’ll get raw conversations, hot takes, and unfiltered hilarity biweekly.

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Episodes 18

EP. 18 - Actually… Are you really that busy?
4d ago
Is performative busyness taking over your life? In this episode of Ambar Actually, host Ambar is joined by her co-host Steven to dismantle the "I'm Busy Olympics" and figure out why modern culture has made rest feel like a crime. Together, they explore how capitalism, social media, and generational immigrant habits have taught us to glorify stress and hustle until we hit absolute burnout. Ambar joined by Steven gets real about corporate expectations, AI anxiety, the fear of falling behind, and why taking PTO should never come with a side of guilt. Hit play for a witty, grounding conversation t
EP. 17 - Actually… You’re toxic
18d ago
Are we actually doing the work, or are we just masking dysfunction behind internet buzzwords? In this episode of Ambar Actually, host Ambar is joined by her co-host Steven for a candid, witty, and unapologetic dive into modern toxicity. Together, they break down everything from hypocritical red flags and emotional avoidance to the performative "nonchalant" dating trend that is ruining genuine connection. Ambar joined by Steven unpacks how childhood households shape adult relationship patterns, why transactional dating culture has gone too far, and what real, healthy compatibility looks like in
EP. 16 - Actually… I rely on faith
1mo ago · 1:07:32
Can we all just agree that living on a floating rock is getting a little too heavy lately? This week on Ambar Actually, Ambar is joined by her co-host Steven to break down the collective exhaustion of navigating modern politics, the endless circus of misinformation, and why everyone seems to have an opinion but no action plan. From the shifting realities of the current administration to how corporate capitalism is actively ruining your streaming bills, they aren’t holding back. The duo also dives into a wild debate on why middle-class millennials are getting the short end of the stick, the dec
EP. 15 - Actually… You’re a creep
1mo ago · 48:06
This episode explores the complex topics of hypersexuality, predatory behavior, cultural influences, and the importance of respect and honesty in relationships. Ambar joined by Steven, delve into societal norms, media influence, and personal boundaries, offering insights and raising awareness about healthy interactions and self-awareness. Key Topics Hypersexuality Normalization: Discussing what is considered empowerment versus what has become over-sexualized in modern culture. Predatory Behaviors and Intent: Identifying the difference between confidence and manipulation, and how "masking" inte
EP. 14 - Actually… You’re pocket watching
2mo ago
Since when did scrolling through your timeline turn into auditing someone else's bank account? In this episode, we're diving into why the internet has made everyone entirely too comfortable calculating other people's coins and counting their blessings. This week, Ambar and Steven are tackling the toxic rise of "pocket watching" and the downright scary levels of digital entitlement. From delusional parasocial relationships with your favorite streamers to the literal safety risks of oversharing with Meta glasses and GPS tracking, we're breaking down how social media turns casual viewers into ful
EP. 13 - Actually… I want a soft life
2mo ago
Ambar and Steven discuss the intersection of "soft life" and real-world responsibilities. They challenge the capitalistic version of softness seen on social media—often tied to designer bags and expensive trips—and instead advocate for a definition rooted in peace of mind, healthy boundaries, and self-awareness. Key Topics The Social Media Illusion: How digital marketing sells an overwhelming version of luxury and ease that often feels like a performance. Avoidance vs. Peace: The growing trend of "ghosting" or using social media to avoid hard conversations, featuring thoughts on Ari Lennox’s e
EP. 12 - Actually… You’re being performative
2mo ago · 52:30
In this episode, Ambar joined by Steven dive into the complex world of performative behavior versus authentic living, exploring how societal pressures and personal aspirations shape our choices. They discuss the importance of aligning with what truly matters to you and how to navigate the pressures of life’s milestones without losing yourself. Key Topics: The duality of personality—the "extra" versus the calm reserved side of people How performative behavior shows up in everyday life, careers, and social media The impact of societal milestones—homeownership, marriage, career—on personal fulfil
EP. 11 - Actually… I’m intuitive
3mo ago · 51:27
In this episode, Ambar and Steven explore the power of intuition, self-trust, ego, and societal issues like capitalism and gun violence. They share personal insights, stories, and practical advice on listening to your gut and making confident decisions. Key Topics The Role of Intuition: Discussing how to identify and trust your "gut feeling" as a guiding force. Ego and Self-Confidence: Examining how ego impacts decision-making and the development of self-awareness. Societal Pressures: A candid look at the impact of capitalism, gun violence, and traditional societal norms on individual well-bei
EP. 10 - Actually… I’m kinda attached
3mo ago · 55:08
This episode explores attachment styles and their impact on romantic and platonic relationships, emphasizing self-awareness and communication. Ambar joined by Steven share personal insights, debunk myths, and offer practical advice for healthier connections.
EP. 09 - Actually… I said no
4mo ago · 47:33
In this episode, Ambar joined by Steven, explore the themes of self-respect, boundaries, and the impact of hustle culture on modern living. They discuss the importance of saying no, the challenges of navigating gender roles, and the emotional intelligence required in relationships. The conversation also touches on the need for accountability and personal growth, as well as the complexities of human relationships. They conclude with a light-hearted game to lighten the mood before wrapping up with reflections on trust and new experiences.
EP. 08 - Actually… I don’t want to be your friend
4mo ago · 1:02:11
This conversation delves into the complexities of friendships, particularly the emotional impact of friend breakups, the dynamics of loyalty, and the importance of communication. Ambar, joined by Steven & a special guest explore how friendships can change over time due to life circumstances, the role of jealousy, and the necessity of emotional maturity in maintaining healthy relationships. They emphasize that not all friendships are meant to last forever and that closure is often a personal journey. Ultimately, the discussion highlights the value of human connection and the need for honest com
EP. 07 - Actually… I see you as a friend
5mo ago · 40:24
In this conversation, Ambar joined by Steven delve into the complexities of the friend zone, exploring whether it is a myth or a reality. They discuss the nature of rejection, the dynamics of friendships, and the importance of clear communication in relationships. The conversation highlights the differences in how men and women experience rejection and attraction, emphasizing the need for boundaries and transparency. They also touch on the emotional manipulation that can occur in friendships and the importance of kindness and assertiveness. Ultimately, they conclude that friendships should fee
EP. 06 - Actually… I’m independent
5mo ago · 53:56
In this conversation, Ambar joined by Steven explore the complexities of independence, hyper-independence, and their impacts on relationships and personal well-being. They discuss how cultural backgrounds shape their views on independence, the challenges of modern relationships, and the societal pressures that come with being independent. The conversation also touches on the importance of vulnerability, emotional support, and the effects of capitalism on mental health and interpersonal connections.
EP. 05 - Actually… That’s a red flag
6mo ago · 1:08:19
In this engaging conversation, Ambar and Steven delve into the complexities of modern relationships, discussing red flags, communication styles, and the impact of social media on dating. They explore the importance of vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and the need for clarity in romantic connections. The discussion emphasizes the significance of self-respect and the necessity of recognizing patterns in relationships, ultimately advocating for intentionality and effort in dating.
EP. 04 - Actually… I’m healing
6mo ago · 1:29:18
Summary This conversation explores the multifaceted themes surrounding womanhood in 2025, emphasizing the importance of healing, cultural identity, and the unique challenges women face today. The discussion delves into the impact of social media, self-sabotage in relationships, and the need for authenticity in personal and professional spaces. The speakers highlight the significance of understanding and addressing the trauma that influences behaviors and relationships, advocating for a collective healing journey for both women and men. In this conversation, Steven and Ambar discuss the importa
EP. 03 - Actually…I’m a mom
7mo ago · 1:05:12
Summary In this conversation, Amber and Steven explore the complexities of dating as a parent, discussing the challenges, emotional labor, and communication required in such relationships. They delve into the differences between dating and situationships, the importance of time management, and the impact of social media on dating perspectives. The discussion emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence, setting boundaries, and understanding one's worth in the dating landscape, especially for single parents.
EP. 02 - Actually… It’s a situation
7mo ago · 1:18:56
In this episode, Ambar and Steven delve into the complexities of modern dating, exploring the nuances of situationships, the dating spectrum, and the impact of social media on relationships. They discuss the importance of emotional intelligence, the role of materialism in dating expectations, and the necessity of therapy for personal growth. The conversation emphasizes self-awareness and understanding one's needs in relationships, while also critiquing societal pressures and norms surrounding dating and companionship.
EP. 01 - Actually…Ambar or Ambar, Actually?
8mo ago · 50:23
In this engaging conversation, Ambar and Steven explore their backgrounds in podcasting, the challenges of corporate life, and the societal issues affecting their generation. They discuss the cultural shift of women de-centering men in their lives, the importance of mental health awareness, and the need for community engagement. The episode wraps up with reflections on personal growth and the excitement for future conversations.

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EP. 15 - Actually… You’re a creep

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EP. 08 - Actually… I don’t want to be your friend

EP. 07 - Actually… I see you as a friend

EP. 06 - Actually… I’m independent

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EP. 04 - Actually… I’m healing

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Episodes 18

EP. 18 - Actually… Are you really that busy?

EP. 17 - Actually… You’re toxic

EP. 16 - Actually… I rely on faith

EP. 15 - Actually… You’re a creep

EP. 14 - Actually… You’re pocket watching

EP. 13 - Actually… I want a soft life

EP. 12 - Actually… You’re being performative

EP. 11 - Actually… I’m intuitive

EP. 10 - Actually… I’m kinda attached

EP. 09 - Actually… I said no

EP. 08 - Actually… I don’t want to be your friend

EP. 07 - Actually… I see you as a friend

EP. 06 - Actually… I’m independent

EP. 05 - Actually… That’s a red flag

EP. 04 - Actually… I’m healing

EP. 03 - Actually…I’m a mom

EP. 02 - Actually… It’s a situation

EP. 01 - Actually…Ambar or Ambar, Actually?